20 Oct Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
Sexual intimacy in marriage is critical to a healthy, happy relationship between husband and wife. Along with the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual aspects, God designed husband and wife to enjoy the experience of sexual intimacy in marriage: intimacy, as we’ve just defined it, is the ultimate human experience!
Love, marriage, and sex are the three building blocks making sexual intimacy possible. Love—contrary to the vast majority of songs on the radio about this topic—is about meeting the needs of others, and is not about self-gratification. Obviously, you don’t need marriage to have sex; but you certainly do need marriage to experience the authentic, “10 on the Richter Scale” sex God intended!
Love, sex, and marriage without the relational emphasis is just the sexual act; it leaves people empty, dissatisfied, and feeling guilty. This explains just one reason why pornography (even apart from the terrible psychological addiction), is so destructive: it delivers a momentary, addictive pleasure without the core dimension of intimacy.
The Four C’s of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage:
Frustration accumulates when a husband and/ or wife are not able to communicate about problems, desires, fears, or a host of other regularly unspoken issues that impact their sexual experience. Communication allows difficult topics to be openly discussed. What if the wife has no interest in sex? On the other hand, is there freedom to share sexual fantasies with your spouse? Can both partners openly share what they think about their sex life, as well as every other part of their lives?
Caring for your partner means providing them with the sexual experience that pleases them, on their terms, in their way, in their time frame. A husband caring for his wife might mean he focuses on slow and gentle caresses, speaking of her beauty and his love for her, or perhaps practicing giving a full body massage!
Commitment to sexual intimacy in marriage involves doing what is necessary to achieve it, and eliminating whatever is necessary that impedes it. Commitment also translates into time: you must prioritize your time for sex since busyness is one factor that always gets in the way.
- Common Values
Intimacy will not be produced when values held by husband and wife are in conflict. The article Are We Compatible? deals with the issues of beliefs, core values, mutual perspective, and shared goals.
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Enhance Sex with the Use of Sexual Aids Sexual aids are tools to enhance sex and improve your sexual techniques with your partner. They are a fun and enriching part of a satisfying sex life.
No interest in sex spells big problems for marriages. Psychologists agree that lost interest in sex is the most common sexual problem for couples.
Rarely will the first kiss and one caress result in intimate passion; most often, passion needs to be gently kindled through mental foreplay.
Physical intimacy strengthens every relationship and is unique in developing and maintaining intimacy between couples.
Most guys think, “I don’t need help with orgasms”! But most women know about the “elusive female orgasm” because they have to work harder to enjoy the experience! Read articles to learn better how to bring your wife to sexual pleasure. Learn how to use the g spot to sexually please your wife.