14 Jan Part II: The Significance of Weekly Date Nights
Can you imagine how weekly date nights for over 25 years could impact a marriage? Let us tell you: drastically! Hugely! Significantly. We’ve been doing weekly date nights since 1988, and though we’ve missed a few during the busiest times of life (raising 9 kids can do that), we have no regrets for making this a priority in our marriage!
Weekly date nights are an opportunity to:
- Prioritize your marriage relationship by putting it first! Your marriage is your most important human relationship, and its health will affect every area of your life!
- Check in with your spouse. This will help you identify challenges before they escalate into problems. As well, you’ll find out how to be a great support and best friend by regularly asking questions like:
- “how are your love tanks?” (if you don’t know what a love tank is, we highly recommend Dr. Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages book)
- “how can I help you this week?”
- “over the past week, have I hurt or disappointed you in any way?”
- For more questions, our free resource 20 Date Questions for Married Couples will give you plenty of fodder.
- Have fun together! Spice things up with your date nights by going out, staying in, doing something you’ve never done before, surprising each other—get creative! Don’t just exist together—working, raising kids, sleeping and repeating the cycle—live and enjoy life together.
- Keep dating your spouse! Remember the excitement of dating?
Think you’re too busy? Here are a few tips to intentionally make date night happen every week:
- Put it in the calendar! If you absolutely must cancel date night for an emergency/really important reason, be sure to book it in another night that week
- Make childcare arrangements in advance so the thought of figuring it out doesn’t keep your from going ahead with your date.
- Go to bed together and spend a few minutes cuddling, kissing, and talking (keep work, responsibilities, and the to-do list out of the conversation)
- Keep devices (tv, laptops) out of the bedroom; science shows that electronic devices negatively impact sleep AND we all know they will distract you from focusing on your spouse
- Have sex before bedtime!