Developing a Positive Attitude in Marriage

Developing a Positive Attitude in Marriage

Developing a positive attitude creates a context within which amazing things can happen! And I am not simply talking about mind-over-matter; I am talking about gaining new insights resulting in a renewed, optimistic perspective.

developing a positive attitude

I have to make a clear distinction between the plethoras of self-help practitioners and their mantras of everything good, come to me! and the biblical, Christian perspective of placing faith in Christ.

This faith isn’t difficult to develop when I begin to understand:

  • The Maker of the universe is invested in the success of my marriage—after all, our wedding vows are made before God.
  • I have everything I need at my disposal to bring success in all my relationships—as Christians, we have His Spirit and the Bible.
  • The greatest requirement for building a positive outlook in my marriage relationship is within myself: the power and ability to change.
  • Even the destructive things that have occurred in our marriage can work toward the strengthening of our marriage if I will respond appropriately (Romans 8:28 All things work together for good to those that love God…).
  • We are not alone; there are many other couples working on their relationships-—I can receive encouragement from them, as well as through great resources available for help.


Developing a positive attitude requires a clear action plan …

…that addresses our thoughts and our words. Follow these three declarations, and you will be on your way to building and experiencing the benefits of an optimistic and encouraging outlook!

  • I will not complain about anything! (Ephesians 5:20, Philippians 2:14) This one step alone will change your life, and change your marriage!
  • I will speak to myself encouraging words! I will speak (out loud) things that God says are true, regardless of how I feel. (Ephesians 5:19) We spend too much time listening to ourselves, and not enough time speaking to ourselves!
  • Every time I think of my spouse, I will pray, Lord, thank You for giving my husband/wife as your awesome gift. Help me to see the great value of your gift to me!