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Christian Marriage Advice on Sex and Intimacy

The Bible provides Christian marriage advice on the sexual relationship that is timeless.  In fact, in the Bible, we find instruction as well as real-life experiences relating to sex and marriage, passion, lust, and intimacy.  This ancient Book is a “how to” manual about such current topics as how to gain intimate passion, how to please your husband or wife, and how to solve the problem of men and romance!

Many people have the wrong idea about how much Christian marriage advice we can find in the Bible including what the Bible says about sex. We forget that intimacy and sex were God’s ideas!

God wired us with a sex drive that is one of the most powerful forces we can experience. However, like fire, when it is not contained and controlled, it becomes a damaging and destructive force. The Bible provides accounts of the entire spectrum of sexual experiences; we see through the lives of real people how sex out of control destroyed entire nations [1] and we also see, within God’s design, the pinnacle of sexual experiences [2].

To enjoy sex using the Christian marriage advice the Bible gives us—within covenant marriage—leads us to a sexual experience that is totally satisfying and down-right awesome!

Christian Marriage Advice

Many will be surprised to know one of the world’s best examples of ancient erotic literature is in the Bible: the Song of Solomon!  This book is rich in symbolism and figurative speech and is filled with sexual references found in romantic love letters between a young husband and wife.

In fact, some serious students of this book believe the author, in referring to lovemaking between a young husband and wife, even makes symbolic reference to oral sex. [3] Many other biblical, poetic references to sexuality and lovemaking can be found in the Bible. Proverbs chapter 5:15-19, for example, teaches the dangers of promiscuity as compared with the beauty of sex in marriage:

Drink water from your own well—share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in public, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Don’t share it with strangers. 

Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving doe, a graceful deer. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.

When it comes to God’s marital advice about sex, I would say the Bible is hot!

[1] Sodom and Gomorrah. Genesis 19
[2] Song of Solomon
[3] Sheet Music, by Dr. Kevin Leman; Song of Solomon 2:3, 4:16, 5:1

Is there an answer to the question “What Sexual Practices are Okay?” There may be many different Christian views on sex but God has given us healthy and wholesome guidelines to follow.

Become a student of what God has to say about marriage and intimacy! Our Bible studies on the husband-wife relationship and sex may be a good place to start!

If you and your spouse are seeking marriage advice from a counselor, be sure your counselor provides Biblical marriage counseling. Do your research when choosing a marriage counselor to make sure they provide Christian marriage advice based on the wisdom of God found in the Bible. Following God’s design for marriage and intimacy will produce the wonderful results of a long-lasting marriage!