01 Jan For Better or For Better!
I’ve had the privilege of officiating at more than 50 weddings. I have no doubt that those 100 people getting married were sincere in saying their vows to each other:
“…to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health...”
I also have no doubt that every bride and groom were only expecting better, richer, and health! No one is thinking of “the worse, the poorer, or the sickness”!
As much as we don’t plan for it, however, pain and suffering eventually come in some fashion or another. Regardless of our original expectations, Jesus remains continually good, and in our trouble we learn to actually trust God and learn His character.
In those same wedding ceremonies, I usually read from the “love chapter” in 1 Corinthians 13:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
This degree and quality of love is not human, it is divine. It can only originate in God’s love. In other words, our human love comes to an end—and we need to become conduits of God’s love! First, we receive God’s love for ourselves; then we give to our partner what we have received from God ourselves.
Through the processes of trusting God and then personally receiving His love for ourselves, we are transformed. In turn, our partner is also transformed, and together we marvel at how blessed we are!
The irony is we could conclude that our marriage with Jesus at the centre is always, in fact, “better”!